Beware of the victim mentality
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No matter what you need to endure, no matter how hard life sucks at the moment, never lose hope. Hope is one of the strongest friends you can create for yourself. Like I mentioned in my last blog, the moment you start to feel sorry for yourself and start blaming others for your misery, you gain nothing but misery from it. Your own thoughts shape your own reality. Be it for good or worse. We are all tested in life and we will always be tested. Some more than others but in the end, everyone was tested at least once.
It’s not who you are in easy times, it’s who you are when life starts to crumble upon you.
It’s easy to blame others, it’s comforting.
“It’s not my fault that I failed the exam. The teacher asked hard questions.” I heard that sentence many times and I even said it myself. Once I recognised that this type of thinking wouldn’t change my circumstances but rather worsened my position, I stopped thinking that way. Why study for the next exam if the teacher is against you? Why study at all when the whole universe is against me? You see where this thinking is heading.
Nowadays many people have a strong victim mentality. Especially due to social media everyone blames other people for their self inflicted misery. People lack self observation and the honesty to criticise themselves.
Start blaming yourself before anyone else.
I try to live by one rule: it’s always my fault. Once you start to think like that you can change your reactions to circumstances and create many opportunities to improve yourself. Instead of blaming others for making you feel angry, blame yourself for becoming angry and losing your temper. I have to say that this mantra isn’t fitting at all times. If somebody punches you, it’s your right to be angry and nobody wonders why the person punched them in that exact moment. This is a different situation. This thinking is hard not easy. That’s why you gain so much from it. The things in life that are the hardest to accomplish, usually provide ourselves with the highest rewards.
Try to think like that for a day and observe its consequences.
